Guadalajara
Fade in:
INT: GDL ARRIVALS GATE 5:55AM
A some 100 people surround the exit gate, waiting with anticipation. A line of arriving passengers begins to flood out into the waiting area.
Cut to:
The face of a young girl as she enters under the sign marked “Llegadas”.
VAGANIKA Tall, olive-skinned, Canadian youngster. Excited yet apprehensive, and approaching the 48th hour of her day, she enters the waiting area in a state of fatigue, and quick disorientation.
FUTURE NARRATOR VAGANIKA can be heard, narrating from some unknown time or situation in the future, as VAGANIKA ambles through the waiting area.
FUTURE NARRATOR VAGANIKA
My silent mind I could feel floating around me, as my rhythmic steps became my only focus. Under the guidance of my feet, my body travelled calmly forward. My heart was quiet and my thoughts were few, despite fear and uncertainty. I was moving, perhaps for the first time, without a plan. As a heavy thinker (sometimes obsessive), this was majorly uncharted waters for me; I had to let go of worry. I had to work out each step of the plan at the time I executed it. Sometimes these kinds of moments— when your body takes control— are full of adrenaline, and other times, I think, they are just a tranquil feeling—a feeling of acceptance. That is, acceptance with the world and situation you find yourself in. You are able to (perhaps out of necessity) drop your thoughts and emotions clean from your mind. Let go. And your body takes the wheel.
VAGANIKA
Dang.
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Movies are amazing. I used to think that life in the movies was perfect, and ever since I was a little girl—really, since I can remember—, I’ve wanted my life to be like a movie. The difference between me then and me now is that I no longer expect it to be…
…Or maybe that’s not true.
Maybe just eventually, over that time, I was able to realize that movies themselves aren’t even perfect, and thus any aspirations or hopes for perfection in life are unattainable; for if I have no proof of perfection existing, I have no reason to believe it’s possible… so consequently I perhaps did start believing my life could be like the movies, for the reason that movies are not actually that amazing (in relative terms, here).
…Are you following me? If you are, it’s possible you’re now thinking a couple of things, the first being “WeLL aNIkA, i dISagReE. MoVieS aRE tHe shIT.” And the second, “Well that’s moderately depressing.” If you’re not following me, keep trying, I might reach a point eventually…
So okay, to hopefully kill three birds with one stone—movies are the shit. They’re great. They’re a remarkable, huge, beautiful spectacle of the human spirit, and of human innovation. But my thought here— and stay with me on this one— is that perhaps so, and just as much, is everything else in life…?…Preguntas?… Let me follow this through.
When I was about 14, after years of body/self image issues, weight gain/loss, disordered eating, social anxiety, and what I would later recognize as seasonally affective depression (when your emotional well-being changes with the seasons), I had what I would call a major depressive episode. It was in this time that I came to believe that life, at least for me, was not and could never be like it was in the movies—at least in the way that I imagined them at the time, which was more or less “perfection” or “true happiness”. Since then, with some time, effort, MISTAKES, therapy, counseling, vitamins, exercise, meditation, and experience came a different point of view for me that continues to change and grow to this day.
Nowadays I would deviate to say that movies are just a part of life like anything else. They make us feel happy, angry, scared, sad, peaceful, confused, turned on, surprised, excited, or any array of emotions, just like so many other things in life. They just deliver those sensations to us quick and easy, and give us that “problem-solved“, “all-is-well” satisfaction that we crave. I feel like we worship movies in a similar way we do social media, and celebrity culture. We use all of these things daily, to push aside our own perceived life problems for however long we can…
And that’s what depressing to me.
Because when we lose touch with the less desirable parts of our lives, I believe that without noticing, we stop being able to see a lot of the good stuff. I think if we can utilise these things— movies, social media, and other forms of entertainment— as life-enriching—like a nice complimenting spice blend to the meal of our lives— rather than as a life laxative to rid us of all substance— good and bad—that life has to offer, we could all breathe just a little more peacefully. And take more pleasurable shits.
*badum-tsh.*
Boooo.
When we are not avoiding facing our everyday lives with media—when we use it in moderation and turn our focus inward—, we have more time, and are able to see the true nature of our own lives and problems. It often takes time to dig beneath the difficult emotions we have buried or purposely not acknowledged, but it is worth it. As we touch moments of peace, we are able to see wonders and beauty in places we never would have before looked. With mindful awareness of the world, what we do, and where we are, we can bring an “all-is-well” peace to our lives, in every day, and perhaps every moment…
…For me, when I am able to look deeply with mindfulness, I can see my life appear more like the movies (that is, I have more “movie moments”) and vice versa, when I watch a movie with mindfulness, I see it appear more like “real life” (that is, imperfect and “real”).
So let’s start again. This time, the real story.
It was 5:55am in Guadalajara. I disembarked the plane with my carry-on, continued to the luggage carousel to pick up my backpack, and eventually made my way to customs. I was here on my own, a little in shock, and had just spent the entire night jumping from plane to plane on about 45 minutes sleep, so I more or less withdrew mentally.
Walking out of the departures gate with my taxi voucher in hand, I was surrounded by Mexican families awaiting their loved ones’ returns. For the first time of the many to come, I could feel neighbouring eyes following me, attracted to my foreign scent like flies to fresh caca. I was too tired to give a caca about it, but I nonetheless took mental notice— I wasn’t going to blend in here.
I exited the airport to the taxi station where I slugged, with my heavy-ass backpack, towards the type of taxis I knew I was to take (as there was a picture of one on the voucher), and followed a man who gestured towards me to get into his.
My driver was a chipper middle-aged Mexican man named Tomás. He didn’t speak any English, and at the time, I spoke very little Spanish, so our small talk was muy small-ito, no matter how many times Tomás tried to save it. We were about 20 minutes short of topics into a 22 minute drive.
As I sat there in silence while seatbelt-unbuckled Tomás with a full-sized city map sprawled across the wheel and part of the wind shield, drove us through the winding avenues and one-ways of Guadalajara, I felt completely calm.
It still appeared dark like it were almost night outside, but the day was surely just beginning in the city; outside my window I could see people coming out of their houses, taking out the garbage, smoking, driving their cars, talking, and getting on their motorcycles with their families or going to work—homeless people and street dogs still fast asleep. Eventually the sun followed suit, arriving quietly in the east, bringing a subtle, kind glow to the assortment of pastel-coloured, brick-built houses, and a cool lagoon-azul tint to the sky.
The people, the buildings, the streets, the dogs, the cars, the trash, the sunrise, crazy Tomás—everything about that time engulfed me. I imagine if I had actually slept the previous night, my eyes would have been wide as plates the whole time I was in that taxi. I was experiencing something so beautifully alien to me, yet so normal and perhaps mundane as far as the city was concerned… and it felt like something important was happening.
Despite, or perhaps partially because of knowing all the daunting facts—I was young, alone, in an unfamiliar culture with an unfamiliar language, and without much of a plan as to what my next year was going to look like—I was experiencing an honest, authentic, real world. Seeing things in this way and accepting the world for what it was in that moment made me begin to think about the differences— about where I was (Spanish-speaking, unmodernised, warm climate Mexico) and where I was coming from (Canada.)…
[At the risk of sounding really meta and cheesy, I’m going to throw a quick prefacing note in here before I finish… because travelling can make you deep (or a babbling idiot…?).]
In viewing the world with mindfulness, I believe you can realize the true miracle of existence. Witnessing all the aspects of life that come together around you every day is nothing out of the ordinary, for you do it every second of every day, with your own eyes. Nonetheless these things are wonderful and beautiful and amazing if that’s how you decide to see it.
And I don’t think you’re crazy if you think to see it that way.
In fact I think you’d be very wise, for the fact that that’s what I believe to be a very true and positive version of reality…
…In the moment, it was amazing the fact that right then, and for all those years, those people and that place had been breathing the same air from the same atmosphere as me/ feeling the push and pull of the same environment/ sharing a landmass/ sharing oceans/ sharing ancestors/ ideas/ news/ friends/ and sharing everything to do with this world with me. Any interesting story that ever played out in my life, was a completely different story for someone else here, told and understood in another language. These people and this land had known different lives, different struggles, and different perspectives… but still remained to appear so similar in their ways to those that I knew. We were all there, together right then, creating the scene for the movie of each other’s lives. And I was just that one taxi passing in the background.
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So it was like I was touching every moment of my life—past, present and future. My past being what brought me to that point—what I was made of— and the present moment at the time being a moment I knew I would look back on in the future, as well as a “clear-cut definitive life turn” type of moment, that would serve as a symbol or marker for a period of time that I would identify to have lead me in the direction of wherever I was to go in life. It felt like the beginning of an adventure movie… And maybe it was.
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So thanks for reading, once again. I feel like thanks is always in order for anyone that takes the time to do that.
I’ve got a few more post ideas on the way, including one that actually talks about what I’ve been up to/doing in Mexico. Lol. I’ll get to it eventually. Sometimes it’s just more fun to write this way. Hope you enjoy it…
And just to quickly touch on the third and final content promise of my URL, a fave Canadian group of mine just came out with some new music that you can find on soundcloud (and now itunes):
Tennyson
I would describe what they’ve got as jazzy electronic mood music… ❤ fucking love it. Check them out. Check out the new and old stuff. Some faves of mine are Smother and With You, but I love all dem songs, honestly. Honestly.
Okay so adios, enjoy your day!/Merry Christmas!/Happy New Year! I’m currently home for the holidays and enjoying every moment.
Live compassionately and love generously,
Anika